tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post3826902904489128546..comments2023-12-16T13:01:57.794-08:00Comments on shh, don't wake the DRUNKEN HOUSEWIFE: the traumas of parentingthe Drunken Housewifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comBlogger20125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-37495540071719054082007-09-14T17:35:00.000-07:002007-09-14T17:35:00.000-07:00What a chump. You're looking after his son, he's g...What a chump. You're looking after his son, he's getting snarky because you used the wrong pronoun. <BR/><BR/>Puhleeze.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00571974304103698871noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-54772510619618963332007-09-13T10:10:00.000-07:002007-09-13T10:10:00.000-07:00p.s. If lola didn't get Kobe beef for lunch, she ...p.s. If lola didn't get Kobe beef for lunch, she was totally ripped off.Troublehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16553273498093394669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-9575369611550417012007-09-13T10:09:00.000-07:002007-09-13T10:09:00.000-07:00I would have to punch most of the parents in your ...I would have to punch most of the parents in your co-op in the face to punish them for their poor parenting skills.<BR/><BR/>Of course, this tendency towards violence on my part probably comes from having parents who spanked me, quite thoroughly, as a child.<BR/><BR/>I'm no pacifist, that's for sure.<BR/><BR/>And of course, there was that pixie haircut my mom saddled me with for years that probably doomed me to a life of being a tomboy.<BR/><BR/>I'm so using that on her in the future, even if it isn't true.<BR/><BR/>I can sympathize with not fitting in, btw. I'm the tattooed mom with the gauged ears. And I'm surrounded by junior leaguers and sorority girls from the SEC universities. It's lovely. They hate me, pretty much uniformly.<BR/><BR/>And I love them. ;)Troublehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16553273498093394669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-90653334249007657172007-09-13T09:47:00.000-07:002007-09-13T09:47:00.000-07:00I must say that I find it problematic that the lit...I must say that I find it problematic that the little boy's father obviously feels that haircuts should not be "gendered" but hasn't taught his child that it's ok to be mistaken for a girl. You can't have it both ways: either there's nothing wrong with being androgynous or you should use some visual gender clues.<BR/><BR/>Love your blog; thanks for writing.Vodalushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11843259950260319604noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-55241339005818116802007-09-13T06:24:00.000-07:002007-09-13T06:24:00.000-07:00I take all back.I take all back.JKGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13569861165454532541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-84528724771992664762007-09-12T21:22:00.000-07:002007-09-12T21:22:00.000-07:00Oh, and a bit more: the teachers and staff are gr...Oh, and a bit more: the teachers and staff are great. Iris gets a lot of individual attention and is known as a bright, eccentric girl with an irreverent sense of humor and a natural gift for math. We are appreciated by the staff and faculty as being a more funky, fun family, and I've had a couple of staff & faculty say to me with a lot of seriousness, "I'm so glad we have your family here."the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-35833137500242779642007-09-12T21:19:00.000-07:002007-09-12T21:19:00.000-07:00I should write about why I love Iris's school: it...I should write about why I love Iris's school: it has the most amazing art program. It has the best campus of any school in SF (it has a lot of outdoors space, which is very rare). It has the best library of any school in SF (one librarian used to be the head of the Newbery committee). It's a very academic school, but there's a real attempt to be developmentally correct (no homework in kindergarten or 1st grade, 2 recesses a day, phys ed every day... very different from other schools).<BR/><BR/>I don't really fit in with the other parents there, although the Sober Husband does. I'm the only visibly tattooed parent in the parent population, and I'm definitely kind of slobby by comparison to the other mothers, who wear Prada and Michael Kors. I do like quite a lot of the other parents, though. My biggest fear there is that Iris will develop an eating disorder (if you just look at the population of mothers, you will see that over 90 of them are blonde and size 0. I don't care if my child goes blonde --- hell, I dyed her hair blonde for her myself once -- but I don't want her to be anorexic or bulimic).the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-37476170248484288722007-09-12T17:05:00.000-07:002007-09-12T17:05:00.000-07:00Hi, Brown, I did NOT take offense at what you wrot...Hi, Brown, I did NOT take offense at what you wrote. I think the picture may be muddied by the fact that there are a total of three schools here: Lola's old preschool (which I would have written about over the past year, but I don't think I really trashed any parents from there. The parents on the whole were great there. I did write here bitching about the vegetarian issues there, but that's about it); Lola's present school, which is also where Iris Uber Alles attended (Lola changed preschools because she has an awkward birthday, where she doesn't qualify for kindergarten this year. Her old preschool doesn't have a pre-k, but Iris's does for just this sort of child), and the private k-8 school where Iris Uber Alles attends. Next year presumably Lola will enter this school in kindergarten, and then it will all be easier to follow as there will be just stories from one school.<BR/><BR/>There are a lot of really wonderful things about Iris's school, but the cost of the lunch is not one of them. <BR/><BR/>The parent with the long-haired child is from Lola's preschool, NOT Iris's private school. The parent who took me to task for not going to the first day of 2nd grade is from Iris's school, though.the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-88925257955128022992007-09-12T16:56:00.000-07:002007-09-12T16:56:00.000-07:00I'm stunned by the cost of that lunch. That's more...I'm stunned by the cost of that lunch. That's more than I used to spend on my own lunch (even in Switzerland, not known for low-cost anything). <BR/><BR/>But it's shown me where your future lies - there must be good money to be made in the school lunch catering business!Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00427977788577526218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-43177759005256492007-09-12T13:31:00.000-07:002007-09-12T13:31:00.000-07:00Given the enormous influence parents have over the...Given the enormous influence parents have over their children, I'm becoming a bit skeptical about this little school you've been patronizing. Please understand that I in no way intend this as even further criticism of your mothering skills -- not in any way.<BR/><BR/>But for the last two years (at least) the serious social ineptitude and outright presumption of many of the parents at that place (as related in your work here) seems stunning. <BR/><BR/>Can you trust your children to such a place? These people are raising space aliens.<BR/><BR/>And, likely, assholes.<BR/><BR/>The last thing we need: space alien assholes.JKGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13569861165454532541noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-82840792288859146992007-09-12T13:29:00.000-07:002007-09-12T13:29:00.000-07:00We kept out sons' hair short when they were childr...We kept out sons' hair short when they were children, but as the older one grew out his hair in high school, the younger one wanted to also. The older one had facial hair, so no probem! The younger one...well, it's lovely curly hair, he does keep it trimmed, and he says no one ever teases him about it. But he chose to have long hair, I wouldn't force it on him.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-13144630777672080882007-09-12T10:30:00.000-07:002007-09-12T10:30:00.000-07:00Steve, she supposedly had some pasta, a salad, a b...Steve, she supposedly had some pasta, a salad, a bagel, and some soy milk. I'm imagining the portions must be petite, given that these are servings for second graders.the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-40388479025695038422007-09-12T05:58:00.000-07:002007-09-12T05:58:00.000-07:00Wow! Sounds like quite a day. At least I know I'...Wow! Sounds like quite a day. At least I know I'm not the only one having preschool challenges.<BR/><BR/>By the way, there's something waiting for you over on my blog... :-)Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11550327028100224637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-9878047471931952842007-09-12T04:12:00.000-07:002007-09-12T04:12:00.000-07:00I have an acquaintance who refused to cut her son'...I have an acquaintance who refused to cut her son's hair until he was old enough to make the choice himself. After six months of getting teased and bullied at his Montessori school he begged for a haircut. The mom also refused to dress her daughter in anything with pink because she didn't want to reinforce gender stereotypes. The daughter is now four loves pink. Heehokgardnerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09971689914882302078noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-73166944543845411732007-09-11T21:38:00.000-07:002007-09-11T21:38:00.000-07:00We should have had the gendered hair discussion wh...We should have had the gendered hair discussion when you were over, 2AM. The husband was traumatized by his long, lush ringlets as a little boy (his mother was a modern dancer, his father a Communist. My hairdresser Michele was traumatized by a pixie cut which led to a supermarket cashier inquiring, "Would the little man like to carry out a bag?" When I was pregnant with Iris, Michele made me promise: "Swear you'll let her have long hair." The husband also has a firm commitment to appropriately gendered hair for little kids. <BR/><BR/>Now that the girls are old enough to voice opinions, Lola is allowed to get haircuts (she favors a bob), and Iris still grows hers out but must be bullied into brushing it.the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-21903568910636666352007-09-11T21:25:00.000-07:002007-09-11T21:25:00.000-07:00I said to the car-driving child, "Be careful, you ...<I>I said to the car-driving child, "Be careful, you don't want to hit her!"<BR/><BR/>As it turns out, I inadvertently made a huge faux pas. The child I'd referred to as "her" said tearily, "I'm not a girl!" His father was within earshot, and the father came over, scooped up the child, and said in a nasty voice, "Of course you're not a girl." The father didn't speak to me but turned his back on me and then stomped off (the same man had been rude to me previously by asking me to do something for him but not saying thank you or introducing himself to me).<BR/><BR/>The little boy in question is a three year-old with an angelic little face and a high, piping voice and long hair several inches past his shoulders. If it's so frigging traumatic to him to be called a girl and if it's so upsetting to the father, then why the hell don't they cut his motherfucking hair?</I><BR/><BR/>Good, gravy, this brought back bad childhood memories! <BR/><BR/>Being young parents in the early 70s, my mom and dad opted to let my hair grow long and shaggy... and then they sent me to an Lutheran Church Missouri Synod (read: conservative) school for grades K through 8. <BR/><BR/>I was mistaken for a girl more than once, and was taunted by my peers many a time. As I got older, I kept my hair short.<BR/><BR/>I think I would have been tempted to give that parent a piece of my mind had I been serving your role.<BR/><BR/>'Tis a shame that we can't check our emotional baggage on a flight. It might actually have a chance at getting lost.<BR/><BR/>--<BR/>2amsomewhere2amsomewherehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12343733349708172680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-34830685054255985262007-09-11T20:47:00.000-07:002007-09-11T20:47:00.000-07:00So what did she get to eat for $11.25? I hope it w...So what did she get to eat for $11.25? I hope it was spectacular.Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12193622343721139502noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-72768693326311141332007-09-11T20:14:00.000-07:002007-09-11T20:14:00.000-07:00Let them eat Sunflowers I say!Let them eat Sunflowers I say!Silliyakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12357513229346986960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-59864184495606872792007-09-11T19:57:00.000-07:002007-09-11T19:57:00.000-07:00Not TO mention. Apparently all that non-traumatic ...Not TO mention. Apparently all that non-traumatic schooling did nothing for my ability to write coherently.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-92216595937781469412007-09-11T19:56:00.000-07:002007-09-11T19:56:00.000-07:00Wow. School sure has gotten traumatic and expensiv...Wow. School sure has gotten traumatic and expensive since my days. Boys looked like boys (not the mention knew better than to hit adults) and lunch was 50 freakin cents.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com