tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post3018340625578255186..comments2023-12-16T13:01:57.794-08:00Comments on shh, don't wake the DRUNKEN HOUSEWIFE: a taste of what's eating yer drunken old housewifethe Drunken Housewifehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-73529047998981450732007-05-15T03:12:00.000-07:002007-05-15T03:12:00.000-07:00On the vexed issue of slow-walking small people, o...On the vexed issue of slow-walking small people, oh boy have I BTDT. (My older daughter, around age 4-5, would slow to a crawl in anything like spring or summer temperatures, claiming that her stomach was too hot for walking ... or, more mysteriously, that she had too much energy). What worked for us was skipping - yep, the same kids who couldn't muster faster than snail's pace would streak ahead skipping, and could even muster a fair pace walking backwards. <BR/><BR/><BR/>oh - I too would run a mile from the family-in-law reunion thing. And even though it will take money, if the Sober Husband takes the girls you will at least have some quiet self time, eh.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-69167996119758647512007-05-12T20:00:00.000-07:002007-05-12T20:00:00.000-07:00Hughman said exactly what I think, which is part o...Hughman said exactly what I think, which is part of the reason why I think he's so brilliant. (The other that he has a lovely and adorable dog he takes on outings.) I've been at ballet recital photos for four hours and on my second glass of wine recovering, so I'm just going to go with his wise words. <BR/><BR/>The Munsch painting was a brilliant analogy. Best laugh I've had all day. <BR/><BR/>Hang in there. Hugs--MissyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-35638846442466617612007-05-12T18:30:00.000-07:002007-05-12T18:30:00.000-07:00although i love all the Super Secret ideas, i thin...although i love all the Super Secret ideas, i think you should just tell the truth and tell the SH and your MIL that you can't afford the time or money. if she desires, she can sponser the SH and the kids coming but otherwise, sorry. <BR/><BR/>from what you say, she may be relieved. more importantly, you will be. you have nothing to apologize for. this is just the way reality is. nothing to argue with there. <BR/><BR/>also, i think you should expand on some support group. you are obviously a charismatic, interesting person. i'm sure there are many out there who would be willing to help you. if i were in SF, i would in a heartbeat. you have so much to offer. what about the gay couple next door? make cupcakes. cupcakes go a long way. <BR/><BR/>i'll come and stay at your house for a week or more and take care of the kids if you want to get away. kids love me. uncle hugh would be glad to entertain them. i hope they like to dress up.hughmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09995638646423120399noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-23458328434225723102007-05-12T18:07:00.000-07:002007-05-12T18:07:00.000-07:00I have the perfect solution!Tell your MIL everythi...I have the perfect solution!<BR/><BR/>Tell your MIL everything she wants to hear. Then, the day before you are supposed to leave, you are going to become dreadfully ill. Much drama and phone calls of increasing franticness will ensue. At the last possible moment, it will be found that your ailment (while very serious!) is not quite so bad that you cannot be left alone. In fact, a week in bed recuperating, sans children, is exactly what you need. Reluctantly (but heroicly!) you will decline and selflessly urge your loving husband and daughters to attend this dream vacation without you. Friends and neighbors will loyally pledge to check in on you to make up for this awful depredation.<BR/><BR/>Feel free to make your health problem mental. Anyone with a history of depression nowadays has been on medication of some sort, and a pre-existing condition always makes such farces more believable.Amyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18123413735523666081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-89218476303107587352007-05-12T16:59:00.000-07:002007-05-12T16:59:00.000-07:00You need to schedule time for yourself. That's no...You need to schedule time for yourself. That's not being selfish; we all know that a happy mom = a happy family. You need some getting-away time. Do you have a dependable babysitter?Freewheelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05882672545710899282noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-35484215118076969692007-05-12T14:12:00.000-07:002007-05-12T14:12:00.000-07:00I'll be in SF from June 22nd through July 28th, ho...I'll be in SF from June 22nd through July 28th, house-sitting at various houses. I know much of the child-shuttling mind numbing will be over for the summer, but still, I will spend some time helping you drink your wine, if you want. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-63581260705374735732007-05-12T14:03:00.000-07:002007-05-12T14:03:00.000-07:00You know those chronically inflamed eustachian tub...You know those chronically inflamed eustachian tubes would contraindicate flying. Sad, but the SH and the girls could go, leaving you to mope around the house, being consoled by friends over lunch.Silliyakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12357513229346986960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-31288693702483994862007-05-12T13:48:00.000-07:002007-05-12T13:48:00.000-07:00Well you can always come to South Carolina! Certa...Well you can always come to South Carolina! Certainly you won't encounter any inlaws here! Not even mine! HA!<BR/><BR/>I totally feel for you. I've been in much of the same boat lately. Working in speech 3x a week, plus our other responsibilities, conflicts with just about every mommy-type activity out there. I'm really missing that adult interaction! WE NEED THAT! Hey, it's great to be a SAHM, but by golly we need adults too!!!<BR/><BR/>And you know I totally get the inlaw family vacation thing. Heaven forbid if my inlaws ever try to reinstitute the annual family beach trip. (Which of course would just mean that we were invited, because everyone else still goes.) HECK NO! I need vacations for relaxation... not more stress.<BR/><BR/>My FIL's 70'th birthday is next year too. Must have something to do with the year. 1938 was a bad vintage, huh? Just didn't age well. I'm desperately hoping that we don't get subpeonaed for his birthday too.<BR/><BR/>If you ever want to "chat" off-blog, shoot me an email. I think we're feeling a lot of the same things....<BR/>HUGS!Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11550327028100224637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-57323768480685569772007-05-12T12:37:00.000-07:002007-05-12T12:37:00.000-07:00p.s. There are only three more weeks of preschool...p.s. There are only three more weeks of preschool, so if I can hang on that long, my life will get much easier.the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-57447666309215804272007-05-12T12:36:00.000-07:002007-05-12T12:36:00.000-07:00Actually that made me smile: pull me by my home-d...Actually that made me smile: pull me by my home-dyed hair. That's a good one. <BR/><BR/>The common thread of these is that the Sober Husband set up these scenarios and I didn't force a quit. I did the other day, when he told me he'd scheduled a plumber to come between 1:00 and 3:00 the next day. I could only be home between 1:15 and 2:20 at most, and I said that, so the plumber was cancelled (and now will not return the husband's calls, off in a plumbing snit). <BR/><BR/>I am determined not to go to the family event, and indeed I suspect at least one other significant relative will not attend due to living on the West Coast and refusing to travel by air, allegedly due to some 9/11 issues. Even the husband going without me will bust the family bank, and I'm feeling pissy because he took a vacation last year to go to a wedding in Chicago, using my last frequent flier miles, and when do I ever get to go anywhere for personal fun?the Drunken Housewifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14606104534453493304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-5826270970614954692007-05-12T12:30:00.000-07:002007-05-12T12:30:00.000-07:00With total humorlessness I say, you need to set th...With total humorlessness I say, you need to set the limits that you need to maintain your sanity. Isn't that dry and boring advice?<BR/><BR/>You can-not prevent your husband and kids from going to the family suffocation event, but you can refuse (politely) to attend. And you should. You should NEVER do things which you will resent or hate, and nobody on earth is going to protect you from those things but you. And don't say, "but, I have to!" because I'll pull you by your home-dyed hair. <BR/><BR/>All you "have to" do is breath, sleep (HELLO!) eat, stay out of the elements when the weather is bad, and protect your own sanity (and now that you have kids, protect their basic needs to, which includes, taking care of their mother.) <BR/><BR/>You must switch your pre-school work day (you've already acknowledged that you could have had a bigger influence on the schedule, but that you were being compliant to not make waves.) Again, who will protect you but you?<BR/><BR/>You must switch piano. You are the payer of fees. She needs you more than you need her. <BR/><BR/><BR/>And, most importantly, you must make a minor shift (in my opinion) in your family's prioritizing. The Drunken Housewife, needs to move up a notch. A few seasons of missed "enrichment" for the kids at the benefit of the Drunken Housewife's sanity will be better for them in the long run. <BR/><BR/>The common element in all these situations is that the Drunken Housewife agreed to scenarios which were unworkable from the beginning. <BR/><BR/><BR/>There. Bad Friend Post. The worst kind of reply. I gave advice and failed to reflect. Sorry.<BR/><BR/>Here's my token reflection..."Sounds like you are really overwhelmed by all the minor stressors building up and robbing you of the calm and control that you need to stay even. And, not sleeping enough, that's a big problem for your health, it sounds like!" <BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>You bossy friend,<BR/>KimAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-25324039.post-56053922898962545492007-05-12T12:28:00.000-07:002007-05-12T12:28:00.000-07:00Weren't we supposed to meet for lunch oh say ... s...Weren't we supposed to meet for lunch oh say ... six MONTHS ago? Perhaps we should get going on that some time this week, yes? <BR/><BR/>I'm sorry things are so rough lately. Hang in there!Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10931380770342598889noreply@blogger.com